social/child services (2025)

Supreme Being

Afternoon.

After speaking with my ex/wife today,
She has had an email from social saying there is no requirement for any social contact intervention and the contact will be closed.
They where first contacted by my sons school before the police had chance to contaxt them and it says in the email this is from the contact from the school, would this mean the case involving the police with them is also closed(at least until any conviction i guess)?

Its just confusing as the social worker was only saying i should only have 1 day a week contact at most 'just incase something else came up'.
If this is the case then why are they allowed to work independently using their own ideas to goven something then withing 2 weeks they decide (as a group/meeting) to close the case.

Anyone had anything similar?

Regards
Kraken

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Supreme Being

Hi
To add to my last I am afraid as far as life going forward it does not get earlier with the SS.

A couple of years back I managed to discharge my SOPO but still on the SOR and now at the 14 year point. Ive always been classed as Low Risk, hardly any visits over the years, and never been required to undertake a sex offenders course.

All sounds good you think.

Earlier this year I had a annual visit and actually told they did not ant to visit me anymore; with caveats of course. that is if I take a lie detector test. I refused as I do not trust these tests and also on the principle that I offered to take one at my arrest and they refused.

Coming to the point of your scenario, I was then told they have to contact SS as my Son has now a child. No matter my concerns they said this is policy. I therefore asked:

"as you have concerns because I am not in a relationship, mainly due to that at my age they will will have children / grandchildren and would have to declare to the various parents. Can you tell me why you do not understand why I do not think I wish to burden a person(s) with my mistake.

As someone else mentioned, in this age of blame and accusations we are an easy target as society beliefs do not praise us in the same manner they do "drug dealers or those of a violent behavior"!

Society suggests I must let go of all my expectations but I disagree, as whilst I have a voice, I have hope.Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope is for tomorrow else what is left if you remove a mans hope.
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Supreme Being

Morning

I understand this will not be the end of their involvement.
It was just frustrating my childs mother was told to massively restrict my contact with my son but then 2/3 weeks later they close the case.
Im not going to go against my bail conditions still, its hard and 3 months in i still have moments of thinking oh i could do this or that with my son, then it comes crashing down and back to reality that no, no i cant.
It was just a surprise that one moment getting told they advise one thing to then dismiss it all(for now).
Still have a long long way before this does come to the next stage, just happy they have backed off for now, there is and wont be any reason for their involvement until im charged.
I agree with you on relationships, i wouldnt get into a relationship with anyone else now due to causing any issues for others, but why that goes against someone is beyond me, i know people do end up with a good relationship eventually but especially while you have to disclose the matter it is not worth the trouble for the people you will love.

Regards

Kraken

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Supreme Being

Hi
Never believe you are alone or will always will do so.
Not having a "partner" does not mean you will be a recluse as you will restructure your "life" in a manner that protects yourself.

I'm not sure if you will move or change your name etc but sometimes the "quality" you can gain is beneficial. Yes it can take a while to organize and hurdles to overcome; but a quality of life is important.

Eventually you may meet someone that eventually you feel you can disclose to and they will not react badly. If you do then enjoy that time but do not rush into creating scenarios that will not have the outcome you wish for.

Good luck especially in believing you can have a positive life.

Society suggests I must let go of all my expectations but I disagree, as whilst I have a voice, I have hope.Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope is for tomorrow else what is left if you remove a mans hope.
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Supreme Being

Hi
I hope things are improving for you.
Re reading the above It came back to mind a couple of gents I met when I was in Whatton; mid 20's/50's. Both their wives were adamant they were "supporting" their husbands. Both told me that the Police and SS when meeting with them - wives - were encouraged to "dump" the partners.
When the response was "NO", they did receive negative remarks etc.

In my mind any "partner" who stands by a "SO" should be supported not only by society.

I hope you are strong for yours.

Society suggests I must let go of all my expectations but I disagree, as whilst I have a voice, I have hope.Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope is for tomorrow else what is left if you remove a mans hope.
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